Bits to Benefit

Bits to Benefit

      This section contains thoughts, ideas, insights 
          to encourage, to inspire, to motivate.

                                     Dr. Abley


This will bless you:


With GOD, we don't have to look back with regret,
we can look forward with hope!


Good communication is a learned interaction:  
        Practice at home to become proficient!              
                                                                                                                                        -  Abley


Civility Check
When was the last time you put as much effort into trying to understand your partner’s
point of view
as you did in trying to get your point of view across?                      -  Abley



Powerful Aids to Good Communication 

  • Caring
  • Respect
  • Deference
  • Courtesy
  • Forgiveness
  • Mercy
  • Kindness
  • Attention
  • Understanding  
Try them all!
                            –  Abley

Challenge to Change

Fact:   It takes so little effort to give sincere praise.

Fact:   We can accomplish more with a genuine compliment (not flattery) than with criticism.

Fact:   The effect of praise on the recipient is that it can inspire and motivate them.

The Bible tells us that praise has the effect on man that the refining pot has on silver or the
                     furnace has on gold--purifies, perfects, brings out the best.    (Prov. 27:21)

Enigma:     We are often much more reluctant to commend than to condemn!

                                                                                                                                                                              (c) B. Abley


Portions for Parenting


Discipline me not for the childish things I do – I am normal . . .  LOVE ME.

Discipline me when I behave as Adam’s child – I am sinful . . .   LOVE ME STILL.

Discipline me with tenderness, compassion, mercy – as your Heavenly Father does 
                                    you, t
hen through your actions I may learn His ways, see Him, become His child–I am
                                    teachable . . .   
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     (c) B. Abley



Steady Stimulus

The LORD is my Shepherd ...

... surely
shall follow me

("dog my steps")
the days of my life ...

What a thought!!!    GOD's goodness and mercy "hounding" me as long as I live!
(c) B. Abley


Morsels for Meditation

Unrecognized Answers to Prayer
(God ALWAYS provides... for the need that is GREATEST.)
 "O God," I cry, "I really need some quiet -- O blessed solitude!"
  His wisdom knows I need fellowship -- so He sends a multitude.

 "Lord, in my present circumstance what I need is real prosperity!"
 He sees my greatest need and, because He cares, gives scarcity.

 "I'm desperate, O God, to know You are listening, hearing my request!"
Then, Divine silence is all I hear; His love chooses what is BEST.
                                                                                                     © Bonise Abley                      
Powerful Aids to Good Communication 


"I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight,
That to somebody's need made me blind;
But I never have yet felt a twinge of regret,
For being a little too kind."
-  Unknown


Twelve words to help safeguard your marriage:
  •  "I love you”
  •  "I am listening"
  •  “I was wrong”
  •  “Please forgive me”    
Are you up to date with premiums on the
verbal insurance
for your marriage—any payments past due?  
Keep current; avoid the “I OWE YOU” slips (slip-ups).    
- B. Abley

Challenge to Change

"... it's okay to have a past.  We've all made mistakes and bad choices.  This side of heaven, we all have flaws - some people's just show more than others.  What really matters is whether you are willing to change, willing to get the help you need...  The Bible is replete with changed lives.  Change and starting over is why Jesus came to earth..."              
Beth J. Lueders  "At the Crossroads: Turning Away from Addictions" Copyright 2000 IBS Publishing


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